LDR ;in first person

LDR here stands for “Long distance relationship” ,first person because I’m telling it from my point of view.Like..in Halo but you don’t shoot anything or anyone..well you could…anyway,let’s get started!

This isn’t like a pro and con post, those come and go with every different set of people, BUT, there are things that are for sure usually a pro or a con, obviously the first con is you can’t hang out or meet as often as regular couples ( I’ll call them SDR, S as in short,yes short distance,yes), the pro is that precisely because of this the time you spend is likely to be of higher quality, another pro is that a LDR focuses more on talking,feelings,getting to know the other person,of course this can be done in SDR but there are more “distractions” since it’s way easier. Like sex,you can limit to have sexual intercourse and go out to eat,as an example.

I was thinking,that for myself there is a super great advantage that is hard to get in a SDR, the longing, the appreciation for the other person, it’s sorta easy to make the mistake to take  for granted someone who is 3 buses stop away, cos they are “available” ( yes some couples in SDR also lack time,but let us not compare waiting a week as waiting months before meeting ) and it is much harder to take for granted someone that you have to wait for long periods of time to be with, much more so if you haven’t met for the first time yet, you find yourself wondering how her face changes when she laughs, ( yes Skype but in person everything is more colourful more intimate ) how her skin feels,what are her kisses like, etc, you even wonder how her hair gets messy on a windy day, stuff you usually don’t even notice when you see someone all the time, or at least quite often.

I have been told and argued that a LDR isn’t a real on,that it’s a simple way to pretend to have something with someone without the hassle. Excuse me? it’s 2 persons here, 2 different people with their own minds and hearts and feelings, if they are both honest of course it’s real, hell, I think it needs a higher level of commitment,to make time in the day to talk,to coordinate schedules, share pictures, appoint dates for longer talks or Skype sessions,saving for actual meetings,which implies travelling,planning. So I’d ask people to consider this, before thinking it isn’t real, yes sure, some people may just fool around with such things,but there is a point when you’ve shared so much of you, things you may have never disclosed to other partners you’ve had for even years, that no one can come and tell you this isn’t a real thing. It’s love as good as it gets,with a tiny bit more effort, but also the joy of being together goes beyond the roof I’m sure.

And you know? I’ve seen,and it has happened to me, being close in physical distance means little when the emotional distance is already greater than the one between America and Asia… 2 people in the same room, with their minds away from each other, emptily holding hands just because some sense of duty or not to make things awkward, sleeping next to someone but feeling as if you’re totally and completely alone,that kind of distance is the one that can’t be helped,for the other you got buses,planes, Internet and a strong will to work hard and make it work, if it’s worth,but it is if you feel this uproar in yourself. And maybe someday you’ll find yourself feeling closer to someone,closer than you’ve ever been to anyone, and to feel this strong bond, and you haven’t even looked properly  into each other’s eyes…

And no, it’s not like you go and decide you will be drawn to a person who happens to live very far away,it just happens… I am not sure if I’ve written about soulmates… but for tonight this is good enough, and if you happen to find your very special person,and that person lives afar..and when they want too as well.. make it work , try, maybe it turns out great!





Are you an angry vegan? Then keep on reading ( also interesting for vegetarians and general public )

I didn’t fully understand the problem with angry vegans until… for a variety of reasons I found out Ellen Degeneres mentioned something about eggs from her neighbours, and people went on a rampage saying she wasn’t vegan at all,that she was never one,how much she sucked, how uneducated she was etc… I read awesome articles about this, making analysis on the overall impact she ( and other famous people ) have on the public so more people will consider to stop eating meat,or gradually consume less, but then it all became clear, most vegan people don’t think this is good, it’s a black or white zone, you either are a true real vegan or you are just as “bad” as a meat eater.

I will try to make this not too long,but I’ve got much so say, I was in several Facebook groups, some had vegetarians wanting to go vegan and some had vegetarians who didn’t feel like changing yet, both were pretty much attacked by “proper” vegans ,being reminded with every written sentence, of the amount of animals that suffer because they can’t grow a pair and go vegan already. Mostly there was and there is no room for progress, let me set a very clear example of this , ok?

I got this friend,he loves animals,I showed him the video “Earthlings” ,he was touched ,he decided he quits meat,he still eats cheese and eggs, said eggs come from these hens who live in the house nearby ( he lives in a ranch-like place in Mexico, huge area ) in this place, they are old fashioned, the hens live till they die from natural causes, no, do not raise your eyebrow, such things happen in some places,my granny used to be like this,she kept hens and they had place to roam,proper food,fun ,trees to perch and sleep and hen-houses for shelter. I..I can almost listen to some vegans saying “slaves,they were slaves”, well in this world,in this reality that’s pretty much the best hens could be, not clustered in those horrible farms/industries, the truth is some animals exist because man as species wanted them around,so since they are here now and they don’t have a real natural habitat, we should be happy some can live in the most natural way.

Anyway back to my friend, the cheese is from milk from this cow,who is just around with her calf, I admit I am not thrilled about cow’s milk cos they have to get pregnant,but of course this is much much better than milk gotten from the industry. So this friend,he rescues cats,he has sheltered around 15, paid vet bills,rescued dogs,find houses for those animals,and volunteered at local shelters, doesn’t that count as real,meaningful action that benefits the animals more than merely not eating them? Sure,not eating animals is super good, but how many of us non-meat eaters do something else? We try of course,but it’s so sad to see vegans  shaking their fingers at vegetarians and calling them selfish and telling them they are no different from people who eat meat. Well excuse me,they are different, yes, I am aware of the exploitation on the industry for hens and cows,also the barbaric means to get angora sweaters, down feathers and so on, but I do think a vegetarian who is trying to reduce the egg/dairy consumption, maybe opting for organic or local alternatives differs greatly from people who don’t care enough to even stop eating meat in the first place. Also most vegetarians I know do care about using non-tested cosmetics, they are against Killer whales living in stupid small places in seaworld and the like and stuff like that,it’s not a “only vegans do this” thing.

I didn’t comprehend what some people meant with respecting each other’s time,but I do now, I nagged my mother for about 12 years with the meat thing, ( been a vegetarian for 13 years at the time) but she didn’t listen,cos most people don’t listen if you keep shoving stuff in their faces and telling them how horrible it is that they do what they do and how wrong they are, usually without providing some nice,easy and cheap alternatives. She ,on her own, decided to go vegan when a cat we had died,she loved that cat,the first cat she actually built a strong bond with, and then,that was what she needed,she took a nutrition course with me,I was ( still am ) in charge of cooking and finding how to substitute things,and in about 4 months she went from eating cheese daily to have non,nor desire none. But this is true only for her, some people may do it faster,some slower, and we shouldn’t put them down and sit on our high horses being judgemental.

Were we always conscious about things? Are we trying to reduce suffering and violence towards other animals ( remember, humans are animals as well ) by attacking other people? By calling them names,being right down rude? And then we go and be all offended if someone doesn’t agree. I have done this myself, of course I did,but now I’m a wiser person and I know I can’t be like that cos:

1.- It makes no sense and helps no one

2.- I’m actually scaring people off,of even thinking about going vegan,vegetarian,etc

3.- It’s not nice!!

I saw this video,a guy explained being tolerant and strategic, I think he’s awesome, I’ll link him up at the end of this post, he proposed a situation in where a friend,had cooked a lasagne for you, all vegan,the soy milk, the filling, vegan cheese, BUT the friend missed to read that the pasta thing for the lasagne contained egg, the question was, would you still eat it? Most said yes,real hard core vegans said no way!!, I think it turns to a matter of purity, many people feel disgusted to the idea of this, I don’t, I would of before,yes, but now..look, the friend made a real huge effort,are you going to be so rude and unreasonable to reject an otherwise perfectly ok dish cos they missed to read an ingredient? I’d eat it and then nicely,on other day,suggest another brand of pasta that has no egg.

This of course has limits that are set by each person, I can tolerate egg in a situation like this ( or if I go to my friend’s and he can only offer me omelette with the eggs, I’d eat that cos starving has never helped anyone,or if heavens forgive me, I would feel like eating eggs,cos the egg is the only food thing that can be obtained in a very ethical way,because hens do lay naturally,please keep in mind I do not refer to commercial food with industry eggs,not even to organic eggs,just the ones where one can be sure the hens don’t get killed,sue me! ) I’d not have cheese though,cos I hate the flavour,I haaate it, and I’d never have any meat again,cos it’s a dead animal regardless of how he/she died,but other than that,we are not accumulating points on how vegan we are, nor do we get a reset if we get “tainted” with something unproper. This other guy in a vegan group,he sometimes can’t afford 100% vegan soap! Cos it is more expensive usually, is he less of a vegan? Is he a horrible person? No Sir!  I am happy to say I am not rich but I have commodities like going to the gym,having Internet access and I can buy vegan cookies if I want to,but this is not possible for everyone,and we must put ourselves in the other person shoes. It’s been a long day,and all that there is to eat is pizza, with veggies, won’t you eat it and then feel sick?  This is a matter of decisions.

We could also drop the hating on people, yes, I was in that wagon too, way before going vegan I must say. What good can it do to try and be kind to non human animals when we are being emotionally and verbally violent towards humans at the same time? It’s like I preach about non-violence, then I go burn your house down cos you are not enough “non-violentist” as I am? Please think about it without the anger, I know why we get angry, it’s sad and horrible what happens to the other animals and it must stop,but by saying small victories or specific campaigns are worthless we are not helping at all. Take this,there are most people who like dogs,cats,dolphins,yes yes,it’s speciest,but that is how it is usually,so, they like some animals,isn’t it better than many people have at least some degree of empathy than having none? With that as a start something bigger can come,but if we go and crush it like “Blah,you only like dogs,but you eat burgers,you suck,you go to hell”…can you say this to the face of a person who has rescued ,say,18 dogs? saved their lives? Do you stop and rescue animals on the street? Or are you one of those vegans that are against having animals in the house?

Cos cats and dogs have a real hard time out there, there are many risks,these species already need us to be in good conditions,so the least we could do is educate people on neutering, helping shelters,donating, adopting.

This brings me to… truly respecting animals, the last thing I read on this vegan group before leaving was a debate among people who were convinced the only clear ,logical, ultimate way to fix the world was to take ALL carnivore animals, bring them to a separate island, feed them synthetic food while making genetic experiments to make them herbivores.. Are you…like…I can’t even… seriously? And this is NOT being speciest? They want to make the animals entirely into something else so THEY won’t feel guilty? Whaaat?

I just want to add, famous people do bring much attention to alternatives,like being a vegan or a vegetarian,so are you going to say Ellen Degeneres has done nothing,when with her book and website many people has at least reduced their intake? ( Yes reducing is a way to reach not using ).

Also Meatless monday is a good initiative,  why do we humans always want all or nothing? We all start somewhere. Welfare is also important cos,ok,yes I do want that someday animals are no longer seen as meat sources,as machines,as things we can use,but we have to also think about the animals that exist right now, wouldn’t it be a good thing that these animals that are already in such situations would have a life that is even a bit better,while the time comes that no animal will suffer again?

I think I made my point clear, now I proceed to link you to two awesome articles.

The angry vegan

About eggs & Ellen Degeneres


Remember,we are only humans and we can only try,and keep trying.

The darkest hour

I didn’t know how to write “moment of truth” in a more dramatic manner so… Since I took a glimpse on stuff I wrote and thought,and pretended to think,and so on—.I decided to briefly expose my true feelings.

No,I don’t like weed,people can smoke a bit ok,but I would not enjoy having a gf who smokes,so hooray.

Same goes for other drugs, except alcohol,that one is fine when it’s not 2 bottles a day . xD

I don’t like men,I didn’t like it when I tried to date that guy,rebounds are not cool mmkay?

I am not always right and I make mistakes and I used to be very judgemental, I’m sorry about it.

I had been very mean,specially to myself, I am also sorry to those I was mean to,hope at least we all learned something.

I am truly sorry I used the word “love” when I shouldn’t.. I was trying really hard to convince myself that that was what was going on..but of course it wasn’t…me being in love has just happened 2 times in my life, I am not like a horrible person I was just very lost and emotionally unstable and scared and lonely.

I’m impressed at how many posts I consecrated to insult myself and put me down, like whoa! I am aware I disliked my appearance heavily cos it reflected the storm inside…but please don’t treat yourselves like that, love thyself!

I am very happy I got better,it may of taken me almost 32 years,but I got there..of course there is always room for improvement.

I am still open to new stuff,but I have clear limits and I won’t go over them for nothing.

Ain’t nobody got time to read all this.

I am ready now to offer to the world and to take accordingly. I can smile and breath deep.

I think that’s all for now,haha.


random romantic illustration  -coughs-

Goody bye,good bye !

I was looking through my old posts, I talk 2009, to maybe find this awesome poem I wrote but I didn’t know who did i write it to..now i do but it’s forever lost. Oh well. And… I had to delete a bunch of them…it’s so sad to read how sad and unhappy I was,and how hard I had to convince myself and others that everything was ok…and how much I lied,to myself mostly.  Really bad..so,there’s no need for that anymore, i’ll never forget the lessons learned, but I feel no need to keep a register on my old forced way of being so…good bye to the person I thought I had to be, and hello to  who I actually am .


That picture pretty much illustrates nothing of what I wrote about.


Ok read this  Demisexuality … Now, I am not really ok with so many “new” words for sexuality, like asexuals, and aromantic and aero or stuff, I read about it a lot, it’s very interesting but it’s a bit complicated, I know I’m a lesbian who likes women who are girly,well that don’t look like men.  But it was always weird to me,that everyone is like looking at people and being all rawr and I’ve usually been like “Yeah..I guess she’s cute…so?” very apathetic you could say, when I stumbled upon this demisexuality thing it made a damn whole lot of sense,it also explains why sex has usually been pretty crappy for me xD

I even at some point wondered what was wrong with me,since I know I can only like and fall in love with women, ( even if that has only happened twice in my life ) but I didn’t get all sexually aroused and stuff..like kisses are nice,but the whole thing…meh….but now I read more about it,I may not agree on it at a 100% ,but I think I can easily say without a problem that I fit the description at least in a 80%. Cos seriously, this rawr feeling, I’ve only had it ,well twice.  I think I like being like that, I just wished I would of known about it before, so I could present a solid argument to “defend” myself or properly explain why I find masturbation boring as fack. In any case, it’s nice to know I don’t have something wrong, I just need a special extra to get to that point. I think it’s specially good for the other person… she’s going to get it all together.

vlcsnap-2015-08-31-23h25m32s205  Random unrelated image.

Mark my words, I am not going to lose and I will be hot this time for sure,even if I must make 60 tamales I will work out!!! Of course Xmas asks for other sort of training.

Starting the road to fitness

Or at least trying to, I was thinking a while ago to write some sections for fitness and nutrition,since you know I’m into it somehow. Today I’m going to be lazy and just send you to a nice post here Proper article on whole vs white bread , cos it explains it better, but I can say it all goes the same for pasta,rice, if you can,and you can cos it’s easy, do consume ,order and buy the WHOLE, unrefined, brown version, cos it’s always better since it has all the nutrients,makes you feel more full and it doesn’t cause sugar level spikes ( which can be good when training hard but otherwise it’s a hello to diabetes and to welcome that sugar to be stored as fat ) and you’ll be hungry sooner after eating that,so go for the whole grain option!!! It of course has more fiber and protein as well, specially good if you’re a vegetarian or a vegan. And if not it’s still freaking awesome.

That’s for nutrition, other important things I’ve learnt are :

*Super restrictive diets are easy to drop. Seriously eating the same freaking 4 dishes for longer than 5 days? No sir, I didn’t learn to cook awesome stuff to be eating rice and broccoli till I die. ( I do love rice and broccoli but not daily 2 times a day,no ) It’s best to work on forming long term healthy habits. I eat 5-6 meals a day,and I write down a special cheat meal once a week,for example… tacos,or ice cream. I eat little of it and I am content. Also dark chocolate above 70% is ok to eat some cos antioxidants and stuff.

*Stress is bad. Unless we really need it,like if fleeing from a fire…otherwise it makes us store more fat in our midsection and it also contributes to catabolism ( muscle reduction to say it simply ) and no one wants that,ever.

*Commit : Yes, I am not saying you have to train twice a day and follow meal guidelines to a P. But for example, I greatly reduced alcohol, I stick to my routine ( last week was messy cos I got busy but I’m back on track ) work out really hard and sleep good quality hours.

*Sugar is not good for you! But you already know this,and I’m talking about obvious sugar stuff like soda and candies, but beware of hidden sugar, it’s everywhere the damn thing, also the “light” food you eat, makes you fat as well. Sugar from fruits is ok,as long as you don’t eat like 15 mangos. Hmm mango…

*Best motivation comes from within : Don’t try to get sexy just to fit this or that clothing, ( even though it’s nice! ) or to make someone like you ( they should like you for many other things as well ) or cos it’s trendy, I long ago dropped the idea of being a size “X”, I wear the size I wear,and I found out if you grow some muscles you can’t ever wear petite or XS clothing,ever,or skinny fits cos really girls,y u no have legs? And that is fine. Eat healthy cos it’s good for you and work out some cos it’s also good and cos you can look at yourself and be like “Damn girl..you’re hawt!” Or any other phrase…

*There is no spot reduction : Curling like mad won’t make arms be thinner, nor 100 ( poorly done I’m sure, you can’t do more than some repetitions if you’re doing them right ) abs workout reps will get you a flat stomach ( I wish T_T ) You must lose fat overall, where does it come off first and last your body will decide so don’t even bother worrying.

As for actual workouts, it really depends,it’s different if you used to do something and you stopped as if you’ve never done anything, for a quick cure of “I’m not doing anything” I have these useful examples of quick easy to do at home routines :

hunger-games-workout I doubt tributes would survive doing this kind of thing,but it’s still better than doing nothing.

1497524_10152197933783974_209068923_n This is awesome to build core strenght

Also I’d check out stuff like Tabata, since it’s only 4 minutes, intense as hell,but really short. or one of my favourites Zuzka Light , she has tons of free videos to work out,some are crazy as hell,but you can always try them at your own pace, and she has some good advice as well. I recommend this.

Of course you can join a gym,with a proper trainer please, practice martial arts, go hiking and rappelling or any other activity, but I’m thinking this is best if you don’t really have much time.

More to come on Nancy’s fitness section!!


So, I skipped this manga before, happy I ended up reading it,sad it’s only 20 chapters long. Here it goes my proper review, followed by a heavy spoiled monologue,when I get to that part, I’ll make a huge warning sign ok?

Proper,non spoilerish review :

It’s about superheroes, people with power, different kinds, most protect the earth from monsters ,some well are evil or just selfish. We have the Kitajishi sisters, Yuri ( previously strongest hero ever ) and siscon Miyuki. H*e*a*v*y  siscon there. We got Hikari a former superhero whom Miyuki convinces to get back to work.We have a very interesting set of heroes there, from a pretty normal guy who wants to protect his unborn child to a local dude at a small town wanting to keep it a nice place.

The evil guys are of course awesome, the whole siscon thing… Yuri does get jealous if Miyuki shows interest in other people and Miyuki,well,there’s ,you really have to see it, I’d love it if Akane ever did that to Akari hehehe… ( Yuru Yuri Akane of course ) can’t say more on this clean part, but it’s good, I liked the development and the action is great, it’s of course a parody/homage, there’s even a Avengersque scene,so ,so good, so please do go and give it a try.


Ok this should do it…so , Miyuki seems to be a super siscon and love her sister to death, they get very close,not kissing but like really,wow, and then comes in Hikari, slowly it’s shown she likes Miyuki,a lot, and whereas Yuri is jealous at first, again, slowly we are presented with small but strong signs that captain Marina has caught Yuri’s eye…

The whole evil plot is an average one,so I won’t go into detail for that one, what I liked was that it’s sci-fi action shounen WITH yuri,not the other way around,if there has been ever something like that. I shipped the sisters at first,but in last chapter,we learn Lily Cure ( supah Yuri ) was a two team girl, and that the (Midori) Miyuki’s best friend died in the line of duty…well I can think sure, they do love each other as sisters but it’s a huge emotional crotch,the whole thing,cos Miyuki even calls Yuri the way Midori did. “Yuripie” , and seems very guilty about only Yuri being able to remember Midori ( every memory of Midori ever existing was erased as the price to pay when she used up all of her power ) thus carrying this  pain. Finally,when Yuri makes peace with dead Midori,and losing her last spark of power and her ability to walk…she asks her sister to stop it and live separately.

Which is all good cos she ends up living with Marina..who seems to be into  BDSM ( hot,that last image…too bad we didn’t get one in colour for Miyuki/Hikari,we did get some groping though) and Miyuki living and working with Hikari. Heroes still around just not much left for them to do.

Also I liked how Hikari is the one who pursues Miyuki <3

Good story,fanservice is honestly not too much of a bother cos I read it with my parody/homage lenses,and actually I barely noticed it, so all good.

H&M haha see what I did? Cos it's Hikari and Miyuki duh

H&M haha see what I did? Cos it’s Hikari and Miyuki duh


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